Tuesday, August 19, 2008

Never too much, never too little



Sometimes, when the two that are in the relationship encounter a position where nothing can be done to fix it. this is called, being stuck. Alas, this is a time where one (or the both) will need to take action in order to come to a solution. But sometimes.. there may be no such thing. Whether the relationship took a month (or few), a year (or few) to build, it isn't impossible for that bondage to break down in the matter of seconds.
It hurts, when someone you trust, someone who was so special to you, is the one who caused it. But as it goes (and by this I mean life), it's only real when they know exactly what brings the smile upon your face, and what brings the tears to your eyes. Something that seems so perfect isn't real until you experience how much it costs. When it's too good I come to think, why is it I, out of all the people, who gets a chance to feel this happiness in a level only a few have pulled through to? Of course, it only takes a while to realize how much that happiness costs. In extreme cases it even costs lives, but in minor cases (I oppose extremely to saying this, but as they say, "teenage love"), the different angles of emotion. As I said earlier, it's only real when you truly feel it both the bad ways and the good.
Carrying the conversation on from before. When something horrible that you never could have imagined happens, you are technically in no place to blame anyone but yourself. If it hurts, it's because you crossed the line that draws very clearly, where you stop putting yourself out there. Whether it be in relationships, or meeting new people, business, etc. it's always best that you don't put the whole of yourself up for display. When it comes to people, it's always best, to prevent yourself from getting hurt. When you do get hurt, you have no right to blame anyone but yourself. Your bad for lacking self respect. Your bad for risking the tenderness of your emotions, to put it through a test. But one must go there once in a while. A lot is yet to be learned.
There is only so much happiness your partner can give you. There is only so much happiness one can experience. After a certain time, it reaches a point where it cannot get any better - it either maintains its well-being or climbs down the graph. Both of you may strive to extend that graph by just a little more; but the more that's forced, the more you have to lose of what you already have. This is when you hit rock bottom. This is where you both are so tired of the same routine. Exhausted. Weak.
This is where you experience what it feels like to have the life sucked out of you.
That's an experience. A lot is yet to be learned.

Taking responsibility and making the "right" choice is always hard. After all, who is to judge? Decision making is always hard. You always wonder about "what could have been". The worst is when you know "what could have been". When it's been proven to you. When regardless what it takes you to get there, you strive for it. That's when you know, whatever the outcome, is worth what you felt, heard, saw. That's what you were waiting for. When you've felt so lonely, when you've experienced crying, when you've experience heartaches, that's really when you can turn around and say,

"I gave it my best. My all. My everything."

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