Motivation

what motivates people to change..?
there are 3 types of motivations - nature, intrinsic motivation, and extrinsic motivation.
intrinsic motivation does not need anything to motivate yu - yu simply motivate yurself, with yur own thoughts, opinion and decision. extrinsic motivation is the exact opposite - it's when yu are motivated by some outside factor or influence to change. nature, is just as it is - it's inevitable. addiction, is one subject matter that needs intrinsic motivation to change oneself. if the person chooses not to change, or does not want to, then how can anyone around them possibly offer help to that particular person? they should be able to want it in order to gain it. like all psychologists say, they have to be able to admit to the problem. this is considered the first step. noone can force yu to stop addictions such as smoking, drugs, shopping, etc. that's why they say it's so hard to quit. with just the state of mind, yu are able to do anything, simply with yur own intrinsic motivation. studying, for example, is one that not only i, but a lot of people (hopefully) is finding hard at the moment. i have my igcse exams coming up, and yes, all the seniors and people who've been through it say it's not that hard, but how can i not find it hard, if it's the one thing that's giving me all this stress at the moment? a little intrinsic motivation? easy? i think not. in class, i switch off almost within 10 minutes into it. i'm just not interested in that shit. but sooner or later, i'm guaranteed that i'll regret not listening to those little details that come out the teacher's mouth - and very much want to go over it again. it's when yu learn from yur mistakes - it's when yu deal with the consequences, where yu find yurself in desire to have another chance. the thing is, i don't think i understand the importance of these exams and all that shit. i know in my head, that if i don't give it all i got today, in a few years time, while i see my friends in fantastic workplaces, earning an enormous amount of cash, i may be stuck in some shitty job. and i know i dont' want that. but i can't seem to motivate myself to work harder, or study harder. my concentration is simply just drifting off elsewhere..
extrinsic motivation however, comes most the time in a form of threat in some way. losing weight, for example.. all those girls who suffer from bulimia or anorexia.. simply they feel the need to lose their weight because of the influence they gain from around them - magazines, TV, catwalks, or even shops. the media sends a message of, 'if yu're not at least a size 0, yu're not considered beautiful'. we all know this is a load of bullshit, but why isn't anyone doing anything about it? i was pretty much surprised when i heard about the change in the average size of clothing from 2 to a 4 or something in europe or something, and i was quite shocked to be honest, because for a while now we've all been talking about how they should stop this whole deal of being 'skinny' within the media, but noone's seemed to have done anything about it..! thousands of articles have been written about it, but nothing's been done. the ladies on the catwalk are still like toothpicks, the mannequins on the windows of shops are still unbelievabley skinny - people who actually purchase those clothes aren't exactly the same figure. anyhow, people change for the better, but the question is.. what is the term 'better'? how do we know what's best for us? motivation by nature, however, is a different story. this is just simply motivation to change in order to adapt to reality. growing up, for example. from being around 50cm tall, we grow to be around 150-200cm. obviously, our body figure changes, etc. mental change too - to be able to communicate better with the world. it's inevitable, changing due to natural causes. global warming too - we have to learn to adapt, and change for the better. yes, industrial development is good for us.. but is it good for us in long term? we're destroying our environment.. so how is it good for us? but i guess, because of this, we're able to learn from our mistakes. we want to live longer. we want to live around luxurious items and services. but shouldn't we consider the differences between what we desire, what could be done, and what's crossing the limit? mmm. creating a perfect environment, one that's most convenient, one that's most comfortable, isn't always for the best.